When your parents start aging, and you notice them needing more help, it may be time to start thinking about senior care options like assisted living. More than 900,000 individuals throughout the U.S. reside in assisted living facilities and are thriving. However, most seniors avoid these conversations because they’re afraid of losing their independence. They don’t understand that assisted living can make them more independent and come with benefits, such as an active social life and help with ADLs.
It’s never easy to start this kind of conversation, but it’s essential to discuss options and preferences, so you’re prepared for the future and have peace of mind. The following tips on talking to elderly parents about assisted living can help you navigate this difficult conversation.
Do Your Research Before Starting the Conversation
When it comes to assisted living for seniors, doing research beforehand is essential. This way, you can be prepared for the conversation and know what to talk about. Knowing what you’re talking about will make the discussion more productive. Additionally, you’ll be able to present your loved one with options and base the conversation around facts instead of conjecture.
Make Future Senior Care an Ongoing Discussion
The conversation about requiring senior care is tough and likely won’t be wrapped up the first or second time. One of the most important tips on how to talk about assisted living is to keep the discussion ongoing and bringing it up several times. When you approach this subject early on, and the need for senior care isn’t immediate, you can discuss care hypothetically in a non-threatening way.
Be Patient and Use Positive Language
Being patient is an integral part of this process. You won’t have a productive conversation if you give in to anger or frustration. Empathize with them and listen to their feelings and concerns. If you’re getting angry or frustrated, take a break and continue the conversation when you’re calmer.
Additionally, it’s essential to use a positive tone and positive language. For example, instead of using the phrase “assisted living facility,” use “assisted living community.” Instead of saying “rooms,” you can call it “condo-style” living. Additionally, highlight all the positive aspects of community living, including the various amenities, a blossoming social life, and different opportunities.
Ensure Your Loved One Is Involved in the Process
Your loved ones are already concerned about losing independence at this time. Instead of talking down to them or making decisions that are convenient for you, involve them in the process. Instead of simply relaying information, discuss your loved ones’ feelings and concerns and make their wants and needs a priority. Giving your elderly parents control during this time will make the process a lot smoother.
An excellent way to keep your loved ones involved in the process is to take them on assisted living facility tours. This way, they can choose their future and make an informed decision. It will also make the transition easier. At American Grand, we welcome visits and tours. Call us at (920) 585-6985 or reach out to us here to schedule a tour.